Be The One Who Loves You The Most
Relationships are hard.
With any relationship, whether it is with a spouse, a partner, siblings, friends or any other relationship we have in life, a nurturing and healthy relationship can be our greatest joy and our greatest source of pain.
Of all relationships perhaps the most elusive to achieve is the one that requires us to love ourselves. Why is it that most often it is easier to forgive others for their mistakes, to see the good rise above the bad, or to see the value and worth others add?
We often build false walls of protection carefully guarded with self-deprecation, guilt or shame. The art of loving oneself requires forgiveness, acceptance, willingness, and surrender to allow a life and a heart free of walls to reveal the beauty and serenity of living in truth.
Like all relationships constant nourishing is required to keep it alive, thriving and growing. Even those that have discovered how to love themselves, no one loves themselves all the time. It is so easy to start criticizing yourself. Start being the one who loves you the most with some of these self-loving ideas.
Watch your self-talk. The things you say to yourself inside your head. Catch yourself and speak to yourself in ways that are more kind.
Forgive yourself and move forward. When you make a mistake, say “ that’s ok, what have I learned from this mistake?”
Nourish and care for your body. Eat healthy foods and exercise regularly.
Acknowledge your wins. When you accomplish something big or small, acknowledge yourself verbally or treat yourself to something special.
Use positive affirmations. To be even more effective, say them to yourself in front of a mirror. Say things like “I am proud of myself, I am worthy, I can do hard things, I am happy, successful, powerful and confident.” These might feel uncomfortable at first, just keep it up soon you will believe the words you are hearing.
